Hiding hatred makes you a liar; slandering others makes you a fool. Proverbs 10:18
Hidden Hatred
Behavior that is erratic has something hidden. Do you have to walk on eggshells of conditions around someone in order to keep the peace in the relationship? This kind of relationship based on conditions that you have to meet to be accepted, or to measure up, usually has some kind of hidden inner agenda to feed and this happens a lot with secreted grudges which are hidden unforgiveness and unresolved conflicts within a person’s heart.
What Is A Grudge
A grudge is a persistent feeling of ill will or resentment, resulting from a past insult or injury that could even be falsely preconceived because of past relational trauma. A hidden grudge is not really hidden, it is written all over your body language, your treatment of others and your irrational behavior towards them.
Grudges Stir Up Confusion
The times in my life where I have been falsely accused, indictment came because that person was hiding anger in their heart, holding a hidden grudge against me. Not dealing with a past grudge is secreting anger in your heart. Acting like everything is okay, when it is not, is a lie, and usually ends up with an explosion of anger, words of accusation, and moodiness that changes from day to day. This makes the person on the receiving end of this changing behavior, very confused, because one day you are receiving kindness and gifts from them, and the next day you are completely ghosted from their life.
Unwilling To See Truth
A grudge keeps you unwilling to allow truth to be seen or accepted, and sometimes can last many, many years, keeping you relating with people at arms length, never truly embracing people in your life, but pretending to do so, all the while looking down at them in a condescending way, with self-righteousness and judgement.
Unstable Behavior
Grudges make you unstable in all of your ways with one day a smile, the next day a frown, and not being able to live without conditions on relationships or love unconditionally. A grudge makes you inflexible and blinds you to truth and the longer you hold a grudge, the more you will foolishly slander others to continue to prop up your hidden grudge and the deeper the bitter root will grow in your soul.
Bound To A Grudge
The wisdom in this proverb is not to hide things, especially grudges, because when they finally come out, they come out as slander. Why is that so? Because when you hide something that is the same as lying, and where there is hidden grudges, there is confusion and who is the author of confusion? The enemy of our soul is the author of confusion, the father of lies. When you bind yourself to a grudge, you blind yourself from truth and your behavior can become erratic, and very illogical and irrational.
Pray It Up ~ Release The Grudge
Lord, help us not to keep hidden grudges, help us to admit to ourselves we have a grudge and identify why. Help us to let go and let You work out the negative feelings that keep us in bondage to a grudge. Help us to release the grudge to You, as we face the negative emotions and hurt with You, so You can cleanse our soul wound, and heal our soul so we can once again be open-minded to the reality of truth. Jesus, release the freeing power of empathy into our soul as we relinquish our grudges, embrace truth, and begin empathizing with others. Jesus, there is freedom in truth and letting go of the control the past has over us by acknowledging that things happen in life that are uncontrollable, and we can let go of bitterness and begin trusting You to work all things out in our lives for good. Father, we confess our hidden grudges and pray that You would increase our faith and trust in You, yielding our past to You, and walking freely, unconditionally in our relationships in our present. Help the wisdom of this Proverb shatter the darkness in our hearts, unroot the bitterness, break the strong hold of grudges, and cause us to walk in the reality of truth, wholly-holy Yours, trusting you completely and live truly and love unconditionally. Amen!
Dig Deeper In God’s Truth ~ Change It Up
The Holy Spirit of God has sealed you in Jesus Christ until you experience your full salvation. So never grieve the Spirit of God or take for granted his holy influence in your life. Lay aside bitter words, temper tantrums, revenge, profanity, and insults. But instead be kind and affectionate toward one another. Has God graciously forgiven you? Then graciously forgive one another in the depths of Christ’s love. Ephesians 4:30-32
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