“Living responsibly does not have an endgame, having moral boundaries never stops and being accountable to God is a continuous life-style. We are constantly being watched by the next generation, our responsibility never ends and this is called adulting, this keeping of godly values and boundaries and adding value to the next generation.” KimberlyMac

Are you and adult? Are you adulting? Are you Godly adulting? I can’t see how we can be adulting when we lie to ourself and justify our bad behavior by blaming someone else for it. No! Yes? Have you had this kind of conversation lately? “You made me this way. NO, I did not. No excuses, everything you are, everything you have done, is your responsibility and you can’t use me to justify what you have become. I am just as imperfect of a human being as you are. No one in this human condition has cornered the market on absolute perfection. Adulthood is your responsibility, outcome and consequence, not mine.” BeLAME= Taking no responsibility for who you are, justifying your toxic behavior by pointing your finger at someone else, labeling them with your deflection, and as usual taking no responsibility for yourself and your actions. No boundaries and no responsibilities is not adulting, it is the opposite of being an adult, it is self-centered lame childness and blaming others will continue lame behavior. Change it up. Start adulting! Be the one God is calling to protect the innocence of the generation below us, the children He loves.

“Deflecting changes nothing. When you don’t have any moral boundaries and are irresponsible with your behavior, your life-style collides with a person with Godly boundaries and responsible living. What usually happens out of that collision of values? You naturally, in your human condition choose the recourse of deflecting with labels like these: “you are judgmental” or “you are a hypocrite”. BeLame. Therefore, you don’t deal with your offensive-irresponsible behavior. Instead of pointing your finger at someone else, and having three fingers pointing back at you, change it up, stop deflecting and change up your irresponsible behavior.” KimberlyMac

Adult’s acting like children, is a foolish behavior pattern of reacting to life failure and lack of responsibility by blaming their parents for their whole upbringing. They love to give you their dirty laundry list: It is your fault I am this way, you always did this, you never did this, and then they make a “be lame” list siting their parents as the reason they are struggling, the reason they are making bad choices, the reason they can’t seem to succeed. To put it bluntly this is the bullshit of irresponsibility. It has that stank of the failures of no Godly boundaries. You can change this up by godly adulting.

BeLAME= Taking no responsibility for who you are, justifying your toxic behavior by pointing your finger at someone else, labeling them with your deflection, and as usual taking no responsibility for yourself and your actions. No Boundaries ~ No Responsibility!

God is speaking loudly into this generation of adults and He is saying to us: Grow UP and be an adult. This is your life now. You either will be an adult with boundaries, responsibilities and be accountable to a Godly morality, or you will do whatever feels good at the time, without Godly boundaries or responsibilities. But, don’t blame God, or your parents, or your family, that just keeps you bound to your lame behaviors. Be Lame. Where there is failure on your part, adult, there is a lack of Godly boundaries, morals and responsibility and it has nothing to do with your parents or how you were raised. It is your turn now, be an adult. This is adulting, taking responsibility for your actions or reactions.

Obsession or being obsessed by anything or anyone but God, leads to destruction of our boundaries, responsibilities and accountability to the next generation. We sacrifice our common sense to our obsession. Change it up to the reality of truth. KimberlyMac

God asks us this question and speaks this into our world: “Are you distracted by this world and its life obsessions? Then failure is around the corner. Wake up and be an adult. Successful adults have responsibility and boundaries, that they don’t sneak out of. Leaving your responsibilities, slithering out of life boundaries, is living a fake reality that the reality of truth will catch up with and shine the light on your personal deficiencies. Be responsible and stop letting the distractions of an obsession derail every area of your life until it collapses completely. Set up Godly boundaries, live in the morality of God’s truth and be responsible from every moment into every choice, let it be the right choice the first time. This is adulting and this is the best kind of living, the consequences are good. When you choose sin or you choose to do what is right, either way, the consequences of your choice is far reaching in blessing or cursing.”

There Are Decisions Of Consequence. Choices Have Retribution. There Are Consequences To Our Disobedience Of Living Apart From The Way We Were Intended To Live. Message Mike Ashcraft –

Be a responsible adult. Balance out your life in godliness. If you are obsessing over one thing, your life will be unbalanced and you will not be present for most of it, your focus will be on your obsession. Responsibility is being there when you are there, not being one of those people who are not there when they are supposed to be there. Are you there with someone you are responsible for, but not really there? Then get rid of the life obsession which has your total focus and be responsible, accountable and set up your own personal boundaries that hold your balance as an adult. Be self-controlled. Be responsible. Set Godly boundaries. This is Godly Adulting.

Be sure of this. In the last days hard times will come. 2 People will love themselves. They will love money. They will talk about themselves and be proud. They will say wrong things about people. They will not obey their parents. They will not be thankful. They will not keep anything holy. 3 They will have no love. They will not agree with anybody. They will tell lies about people. They will have no self-control. They will beat people. They will not love anything that is good. 4 They cannot be trusted. They will act quickly, without thinking. They are proud of themselves. They love to have fun more than they love God. 5 They act as if they worshipped God, yet they do not let God’s power work in their lives. Keep away from people like that. 2 Timothy 3:1-5

One thing that is tragic in this generation is adults who have no boundaries, no self-control in front of children. When people believe what is good is bad and what is right is wrong and just let all this kind of foolish behavior out, it is not good and it is worse when they have no boundaries in front of innocent children. Innocence is muddied up when people with no moral boundaries, just let it all hang out. These people will find themselves isolated and alone. If you threaten the innocence of children, parents have little patience with that and it is a “burn me once, you won’t burn me twice” situation. Parents are not going to open the hospitality of their family to you if you have no moral boundaries, if you are an adult with a responsibility level of zero and are accountable to no one but yourself. The human condition is way too bad to have no boundaries, it needs moral guidelines or anything goes and perversion knows no limits. Where there are children involved, adults with no boundaries, drunk, cussing and sexually provocative, this is not a good scene and parents will withdraw from it and protect the innocence of their children from this kind of adult irresponsibility, cutting off the person with no boundaries from influencing their children in their bad ways. God wants to change this up, change us up from irresponsible adulting to Godly adulting, this is a move of God’s Holy Spirit upon His people.

Hebrews 2:2-4 For if the words of instruction and inspiration brought by heaven’s messengers were valid, and if we live in a universe where sin and disobedience receive their just rewards, 3 then how will we escape destruction if we ignore this great salvation? We heard it first from our Lord Jesus, then from those who passed on His teaching. 4 God also testifies to this truth by signs and wonders and miracles and the gifts of the Holy Spirit lighting on those He chooses. The Voice

People with no boundaries, no responsibility to others, are very self-centered and create all kind of toxic life drama. These people see your Godly responsibility acted out in your life, as you being judgmental towards them. They label you judgmental because their total lack of life responsibility and moral boundaries clash with your responsible adulting. They label you a hypocrite in order to deflect the attention from their immoral choices, their lack of adult responsibility. You are labeled judgmental and you are labeled a hypocrite when you live your life with the boundaries and responsible adult behavior. These finger pointers, stay lame in their irresponsible behavior and they blame, deflect and are continuously lame in their life choices. If you are living responsible, moral, accountable lives and someone with a “jezebel spirit” says you are a judgmental hypocrite, then smile, because you are living well, and don’t react to their foolishness, respond, take it to God, pray it up. God can deal with it much better and in His way. Which leads out of dead end living to His truth and life.

“Jezebel obviously presumed on God’s grace and interpreted his longsuffering as approval or endorsement of her sinful ways, or at least his indifference toward her chosen paths. She clearly knew what was at issue and chose voluntarily to remain in her sin. The name “Jezebel” had, in fact, become proverbial for wickedness. A person with a “Jezebel Spirit” is one energized by a demonic spirit, and displays insidious, manipulative, evil tendencies, manipulating others into behaviors they don’t normally embrace.” Sam Storms

Independence! No responsibility? No accountability? No Adulting? No boundaries? Our relationship with God becomes less important and our way in our world, more important. How important is your relationship with God? Has the worth of your relationship with God diminished? Your independence from Him increased? Have you decided not to be an adult who is adulting? Don’t want responsibility? Don’t want Godly boundaries? Just want to have fun chasing after feelings and happiness? Got your own life plans that don’t include boundaries or adult responsibility? Then take responsibility for that choice, don’t blame others for the failure that is to come. Without responsibility, morality, godly boundaries there is no success ahead just a toxic life full of worldly drama as it chews you up and spits you out.

“The choices you make now are your choices and your consequences. The things in this life you react to now, are your reactions. Don’t blame others for the way you are. You can have a fake reality, or you can live out of the reality of truth. This is your choice, not mine. I have nothing to do with your current choices, you are an adult and this is your adulthood. Live it well attached to Jesus, heart to heart, because your free will choices are your chosen consequences and not on anyone else but you.” KimberlyMac

You have plans, but this doesn’t mean they are God’s plans. Your perfect life picture doesn’t always snap chat into God’s plan for you. You may never take your perfect picture, the one that is in your head, the one that dominates your thinking and totally obsessively distracts your life, devaluing every area of it. God’s plans are more important than ours, our plans matter to us because we think they are the only thing that matters. But they are not, God’s plans matter more and most. God isn’t done with you yet. If you take the cowardly way out, you won’t finish well. Lying is a coward’s way out. When you lie to yourself and others over and over again, you create a fake reality and you set aside God’s way, truth and life. You have exchanged God’s Truth for a fake reality that can’t stand the test and trials of time and will destruct on impact of the reality of truth.

A coward is a finger pointer, deflecting from the reality of truth to a fake reality, which is lived out precariously by feelings and not by facts, with no boundaries and no responsibility, as adulting is thrown to the wayside for having fun at the cost of everyone else paying the consequences for their pursuit of “feeling happy”! Bowing to an idol of self, a coward gives up and leaves behind a wake of toxic behavior that crashes on the shores of all the people’s lives around them. Thank GOD He can clean up this kind of noxious mess, purify it, make a Godly message out of its mess and give everyone the strength to deal with its consequences. Jesus knows adulting and He knows what happens when adults live without boundaries, responsibilities or accountability to good morals. We exchange our godly morals for sexual immorality. God knows how it goes with our human condition, because he paid the price of our foolishness as we human beings in our human condition chased and still chase after the temporary joys of this life and abandon godly adulting, a responsible-accountable-godly life style which doesn’t exclude godly morality of loving God with our whole body, soul, mind, spirit. We in this generation of adults compartmentalize God out of our sexual lives and make choices that are not godly adulting.

2 Peter 2:18-20 They spout off with their grandiose, impressive nonsense. Consumed with the lusts of the flesh, they lure back into sin those who recently escaped from their error. 19 They promise others freedom, yet they themselves are slaves to corruption, for people are slaves to whatever overcomes them. 20 Those who escape the corrupting forces of this world system through the experience of knowing about our Lord and Savior, Jesus the Messiah, then go back into entanglement with them and are defeated by them, becoming worse off than they were to start with. The Passion Translation

Reality Of Truth! In this generation we are plagued with the use of empty words, words void of truth. We use our words to avoid being responsible. We speak responsibility, we speak boundary, but that is all it is, speakeasies. We talk a good talk, but we don’t actually ever intend to do it. We say things to please people, but we don’t do it, we do what pleases us. This is a very self-centered way to live. It is living with no authority higher than self. We are not wholly-holy God’s, even though God desires this of us. There will come a time in our lives where the reality of God’s truth will intercept this fake reality and slam into it, shattering it to pieces. Fake peace, mustered up by the human will, can no longer hold up our horizontal life, willed by self-pleasing fake realities where we are not serving God, we are serving our human pleasures. Jesus is the only soul peace that stands the tests and trials of time. Human happiness is an illusion we chase after by sacrificing all of our common sense in the futile obsession we have with it. There is no joy that can stand the tests and trials of life like the joy of Jesus. Jesus-Others-You, this is joy unshakeable. The cross is the only way to live and thrive and that symbol comes to life in a vital-vertical relationship with Jesus where your horizontal life is upheld by your vertical relationship with God. When this happens, when your life is the symbol of a cross, pouring out horizontally all you are receiving vertically from God, this is Godly Adulting at its best.

Fake reality is birthed as we give people permission to speak into our lives, people who only know the narrative of falsity. Adulting is not part of their life. They think they are free, without any boundaries or responsibility. They have that “jezebel spirit” where what is wrong is right and what is right is wrong and what is good is bad and what is bad is good. They live in this fake reality and would love to pull you right into it. Apart from God a sinner is needy and dissatisfied and their main need is to have others sin with them. They don’t care about anything but having fun. It is a false front, a “joy” which does not hold up, it is not stable and soon enough their joyful living turns to wrath, hate and bitter spite in that way that you won’t know what hit you. They are unstable in all their ways and create toxic drama day after day. Nothing about their lives is real, they say what they think you want to hear, but they mean nothing that they say. Empty living is never satisfied and the human nature proves to be very perverse without Godly boundaries

Revelation 2:20-23 But I have this against you: you tolerate that woman Jezebel, who calls herself a prophetess and is seducing my loving servants. She is teaching that it is permissible to indulge in sexual immorality and to eat food sacrificed to idols. 21 I have waited for her to repent from her vile immorality, but she refuses to do so. 22 Now I will lay her low with terrible distress along with all her adulterous partners if they do not repent. 23 And I will strike down her followers with a deadly plague. Then all the congregations will realize that I am the one who thoroughly searches the most secret thought and the innermost being. I will give to each one what their works deserve. The Passion Translation

Adulting is living wisely and giving your ear to God alone and listening up to Him. Adulting wisdom this: Do not give people permission to speak into your heart, who do not give God permission to speak into their heart. This is where deception sneaks in and will greatly damage your relationships. God is honest, genuine and trustworthy, He will speak what is true into your life. Listen up to God first and foremost and hear the truth that can and will set you free from all dishonesty of thought, word and deed. Do not connect yourself heart to heart to anyone with a “jezebel spirit” who is telling you right is wrong and good is bad, this will not end well for you or for all you are in relationships with. Godly Adulting is making wise relationship choices and not yoking yourself to those not walking with Him. Adults lacking Godly responsibility and Godly morals is a prescription written for the generation beneath us for moral disaster.

Is it time for you to step into adulthood? Adulting is a great life season if you set godly boundaries, being responsible to all God has set in your life path, and being accountable to God first. Adulting is a great God adventure, one that will bring you joy unlike anything this world can give as you live heart to heart with God. Your horizontal is only as strong as your vital-vertical relationship with God makes it. In adulting, you must be a cross. Holding up your horizontal responsibility with an accountability to a vital-vertical relationship with God. Adulting is a big responsibility, we need Godly boundaries, we need Godly accountability and we need the strength that comes from God to know the power of being responsible adults, faithful to the God and adding value to the generation beneath us. Is Godly adulting your choice? If so, your first step is a vital-vertical relationship with God, heart to Heart and spirit to Spirit, God will strengthen your adulting, guiding you and being your simply-significantly, enough, on this day. Godly adulting is used by God to protect the innocence of children in a world that has become perverse in its morality. Be used by God, pray it up and ask Him to show you what Godly Adulting must look like in your family life. Let it be so. Godly Adulting.

Thank you for stopping in The Bridegroom’s Café. This meal today at The Prayer Mentor table is a full course meal, full of the nourishment of His Holy Spirit. God is speaking to adults today. God is saying to all of us adults on this day that it is time to BE an adult, grow up and be found adulting, in a vital-vertical relationship with God, being adults, adulting with our horizontal responsibility to all those around us stabilized by godly boundaries. Grow up and live a godly morality, accountable to God first, so all those He has made us responsible for, in relationship with, they can know successful living, as we adults stay faithful to God’s way, truth and life. Adulting in the reality of God’s truth is a great adventure, enjoy it because it will add eternal value every single day to the generation below us, be responsible adults. Godly Adulting Matters – be so! Listen up daily to: The Bridegroom’s Voice

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