Timothy, you are God’s man, so run from all these errors. Instead, chase after true holiness, justice, faithfulness, love, hope, and tender humility. So fight with faith for the winner’s prize! Lay your hands upon eternal life, to which you were called and about which you made the good confession before the multitude of witnesses! 1 Tim. 6:11-12
I have been talking to God about transference, asking for His protection from it, and His wisdom not to be involved in it in any way in my life choices. We all have been hurt by transference. Transference is a ploy of the enemy in our lives, and we need to guard our heart with all diligence and not let ourselves become a vehicle of transference. I hope we all learn today from this exhortation from God, to know what transference is, and how to fight against it entering into our life path, fight against being used by it, and fight against being soul fatigued because of it. How? Begin with staying close to Jesus, draw near to Him, resist the enemy and He will flee. If transference is a part of your life path, refresh your soul in the promises of God, and don’t let the enemy steal or fatigue your compassion. Let be, be still, let God work and most importantly, give Him time to work and room to work. Fast and pray, because strong holds are broken when you do this, remembering it is not by Your might, or your power but by God’s Spirit that crooked places caused by transference can be made straight. Think On These Scriptures:
Listen carefully, my dear child, to everything that I teach you, and pay attention to all that I have to say. Fill your thoughts with my words until they penetrate deep into your spirit. Then, as you unwrap my words, they will impart true life and radiant health into the very core of your being. So above all, guard the affections of your heart, for they affect all that you are. Pay attention to the welfare of your innermost being, for from there flows the wellspring of life. Proverbs 4:20-23
For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord . “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. In those days when you pray, I will listen. If you look for me wholeheartedly, you will find me. I will be found by you,” says the Lord . “I will end your captivity and restore your fortunes. I will gather you out of the nations where I sent you and will bring you home again to your own land.” Jeremiah 29:11-14
He continues to pour out more and more grace upon us. For it says, “God resists you when you are proud but continually pours out grace when you are humble.” So then, surrender to God. Stand up to the devil and resist him and he will flee in agony. Move your heart closer and closer to God, and he will come even closer to you. But make sure you cleanse your life, you sinners, and keep your heart pure and stop doubting. James 4:6-8
Transference Is…
I asked God to explain transference to me, to clarify what it was the enemy was using it for? Jesus showed me it was the reason He was hung on the cross, transference. He took the punishment for our sins, for something He never did. Jesus was proclaimed guilty by the very guilty ones who were transferring the consequences of their sin to Him. He was blamed for what others did, and suffered because of what others did, that He had no part in. He never sinned, not even once, yet He took our sins upon Himself and died our death, so we could live His life. Transference happened because it was our sin He bore.
For God called you to do good, even if it means suffering, just as Christ suffered for you. He is your example, and you must follow in his steps. He never sinned, nor ever deceived anyone. He did not retaliate when he was insulted, nor threaten revenge when he suffered. He left his case in the hands of God, who always judges fairly. He personally carried our sins in his body on the cross so that we can be dead to sin and live for what is right. By his wounds you are healed. 1 Peter 2:21-24
Transference Is A Broad Road
Transference can happen when you think you are a victim and you are not, it is the easy broad path where you point your finger at someone else, so you don’t have to deal with your own mess you have created. Transference is the broad road. You take out your past relationship hurts on the wrong people, the ones who did not hurt you, because that is an easier road to take. Wounded people, wound people, because of a root of bitterness in their soul from their past hurts that has been triggered by something in the present, and they also have painful secrets in their past, that still plague their soul. Transference is simply-significantly taking the focus off of what the real problem is, and blaming someone else, who has nothing to do with the reality of your inner secreted pain and truth. This is the easy, broad path of life, transference and it doesn’t lead to healing, it leads to more pain and a narcissistic lifestyle of controlling everyone and everything.
It is a fearful (formidable and terrible) thing to incur the divine penalties and be cast into the hands of the living God! But be ever mindful of the days gone by in which, after you were first spiritually enlightened, you endured a great and painful struggle, For we know Him Who said, Vengeance is Mine [retribution and the meting out of full justice rest with Me]; I will repay [I will exact the compensation], says the Lord. And again, The Lord will judge and determine and solve and settle the cause and the cases of His people. [Deut. 32:35, 36.]
Transference Is A Fake Reality
Transference creates a fake reality through false accusations founded upon speculation, assumption, exaggeration, and presuppositions, and blame is born out of these spoken untruths. Be Lame. Blame! Blame stirs up emotional tornados. Transference is stirring up a huge tornado with dark emotions, and deception, and sucking everyone into it, as it crashes into people with emotional whirlwind, after whirlwind, from the enemy of their soul. If you refuse to step into the tornado spun by a narcissist, and you resist it, guard yourself, the enemy will backlash you with all kinds of strikes to your soul, using condemnation, attacking your identity in Christ, trying to make your life miserable, and angrily transferring guilt, making you the focus of guilt that is not yours, creating a fake reality. This fake reality that you have been confronted with, it is not about you, it is about that narcissistic person feeling guilty about what they have done, or a narcissistic person acting on a grudge from the past, and this grudge against you, this is transference, and the enemy of your soul loves to use it against you. Do not step into a narcissists spun up, emotional grudge tornado, it will spin out as you stand safely on the outside of it. This scripture speaks the truth:
Why would you hold a grudge in your heart toward your neighbor who lives right next door? And why would you quarrel with those who have done nothing wrong to you? Is that a chip on your shoulder? Don’t act like those bullies or learn their ways. Every violent thug is despised by the Lord, but every tender lover finds friendship with God and will hear his intimate secrets. Proverbs 3:29-32
Transference Is Emotional Punishment
The narcissist will punish you with emotional punishment trying to gain back the control that they have lost. This is a form of transference as they stop speaking to you, and reject you until you act the way that makes them comfortable in their control of you. They create silence between you and them, withholding their heart from you. Transference acted out against others is just not a good thing, and never ends well for either party. When you light your own fire and walk by the light of a man made fire, it will flame out and the darkness will be soul torturous. Emotional punishment is not from God, it is man-made illegitimate control. God does not condemn us, there is no condemnation in Christ Jesus. Listen Up To This 1 Minute Encouragement Video
Who among you fears the Lord and obeys his servant? If you are walking in darkness, without a ray of light, trust in the Lord and rely on your God. But watch out, you who live in your own light and warm yourselves by your own fires. This is the reward you will receive from me: You will soon fall down in great torment. Isaiah 50:10-11
Transference Leaves A Human Mess
Once the tornado of transference spins out, this is the conditional part of the storm, where favor is withheld because you did not meet their conditions, because you spoke the truth, and that is when the condemnation accusations are flung around like dark mud on a white shirt. What a human mess… and my suggestion is that you don’t try to fix it, or clean it up while transference is in play by the enemy of your soul. Turn to the Only One who can, Jesus, the Reconciler, Who never fails to make crooked places straight. Yield To Jesus. Pray. You Are Not The Fixer, God Is.
I will go before you and level the mountains [to make the crooked places straight]; I will break in pieces the doors of bronze and cut asunder the bars of iron. And I will give you the treasures of darkness and hidden riches of secret places, that you may know that it is I, the Lord, the God of Israel, Who calls you by your name.Isaiah 45:2-3
Narcissistic Transference Is Ugly Stuff
The human condition out of control, is such ugly human condition stuff. Transference! Hey Narcissist, You burn down our city, but we are the one with the problem, we clean up your mess, our business is destroyed and we pay your consequences. You are the one with the anger issue, acting it out on a daily basis, trying to control people through violence, extreme anger, and mob manipulation, but somehow, it becomes our fault. I must pay, I must be punished, therefore you don’t have to look at the heart issue you have. You haven’t dealt with your past, your anger lashing out is past hidden shame that gets triggered and you are bringing it into our present. Unrighteousness is unhinged shame. You look at us, you transfer the guilt or pain from your past, and you blame us for it, you punish us for it. We haven’t done anything to you, you punish us for your not being able to reconcile your past. It is your past, not ours, but we get punished for it. I pay the reparations for something me or my family never did and still don’t do or have any part in slavery. No common sense in any of this, which suggests transference is a total lack of any human sense or godly wisdom. Now What? God will avenge His own. It is God’s battle, you don’t battle with me, you battle with Him, the Purifier who takes the dross out of silver by fire.
The heart of a king is full of understanding, like the heavens are high and the ocean is deep. If you burn away the impurities from silver, a sterling vessel will emerge from the fire. And if you purge corruption from the kingdom, a king’s reign will be established in righteousness. Proverbs 25:3-5
Godly Wisdom
Life can be a path in disarray because of the enemies soul vandals, and transferring the blame is the name of the game of the enemy of our soul, and in times such as these, this is happening in record times from nation to nation, community to community, people to people, and family to family. So many people with anger out of control, and they are doing stupid, foolish things, and innocent people are paying the consequences for them, because they transfer the blame to them, those who have been hurt by the foolishness of their narcissism out of control in our times. If you have an anger issue and you cause something bad to happen, you made the bad choice, so stop blaming other people for it, and deal with your own soul mess, stop transferring the problem on someone else, putting it on them like you are completely innocent. It is your fault, not theirs. Dealing with transference is a difficult thing and this scripture will give you the godly wisdom to do so.
Now, remember, it is I who sends you out, even though you feel vulnerable as lambs going into a pack of wolves. So be as shrewd as snakes yet as harmless as doves. Be on your guard! For there will be those who will betray you before their religious councils and brutally beat you with whips in their public gatherings. Expect to be hated by all because of my name, but be faithful to the end and you will experience life and deliverance. Matthew 10:16-17,22 You will not succeed by your own strength or by your own power. The power will come from my Spirit,’ says the Lord of heaven’s armies. Zechariah 4:6
Transference Is Blind To Real Human Issues
Nations out of control because they have chosen bad leadership, sinful authority making laws that trap innocent people, making them take the blame for what evil people are doing. Transference. An evil person sick in the mind shoots others, and somehow it is our fault because we own a gun. Transference, the gun is the issue, the mental health is not, and what is causing the mental health issues is never dealt with, and our society gets sicker. The problem just gets worse when we Be Lame.
Transference As A Political Weapon
We let people destroy city after city in rage, because of an issue that was with our forefathers, not us. People evil bent, hurt their own nation to make their PooPooPolitics, false narrative display nationally and in order to do so, they disruptively bring in people to destroy our community, people that don’t even live there in the community, that is burning to the ground, by people paid to cause as much damage as they could to our community. Why?? Because they are using transference as a political weapon, saying to you: You need to be punished for something you and your ancestors did not do, and still don’t participate in slavery. You need to be punished because you don’t believe like we believe. You need to be punished because you did not come in alignment with our ways. Transference. God will make a way of restoration when injustice and corrupt authority has struck the innocence of hard working people. God will avenge this senseless violence and destruction of people’s hard earned possessions.
Never hold a grudge or try to get even, but plan your life around the noblest way to benefit others. Do your best to live as everybody’s friend. Beloved, don’t be obsessed with taking revenge, but leave that to God’s righteous justice. For the Scriptures say: “Vengeance is mine, and I will repay,” says the Lord. And: If your enemy is hungry, buy him lunch! Win him over with kindness. For your surprising generosity will awaken his conscience, and God will reward you with favor. Never let evil defeat you, but defeat evil with good. Romans 12:17-21
Creates Bad Habits And Reactions
Transference, it is a big thing in our society, and in this generation we have way too many narcissistic tendencies that have created bad habits of blaming others, always thinking all our problems, they are about someone else, and never looking at our own heart, and admitting to what we have done. There is a narcissistic action and then a human reaction. The human reaction is the loss of compassion. When we live our life making right choices, it is difficult to handle the weight of transference, it breaks the spirit, and we no longer want to be a person who cares, we become compassion fatigued, and this is a byproduct of our society and its lack of getting the narcissistic spirit under the control of God.
Not Taking The Punishment – Jesus Took It
You want to ghost me because of transference, you want to blame me, you want to punish me, you won’t find me, because like so many other human beings, who have taken too much of undeserved punishment, I am the one who has withdrawn from the emotional beating from your inner pain. I am done taking the punishment. You have no more permission to speak into my life. Find someone else to support you. This is our natural reaction to long periods of narcissistic transference. But God, has a better response. It was Jesus, and it still is. He bore the punishment for our sins, so we don’t have to wound others who have wounded us. Jesus, can give us the strength we need to patiently endure the weight of transference upon our soul, the unfairness, when someone transfers their problems off their shoulders onto yours. It is not my fault, it is yours. Jesus bore all of this… Listen Up To This 1 Minute Encouragement Video
He was despised and rejected and forsaken by men, a Man of sorrows and pains, and acquainted with grief and sickness; and like One from Whom men hide their faces He was despised, and we did not appreciate His worth or have any esteem for Him. Surely He has borne our griefs (sicknesses, weaknesses, and distresses) and carried our sorrows and pains [of punishment], yet we [ignorantly] considered Him stricken, smitten, and afflicted by God [as if with leprosy]. [Matt. 8:17.] But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our guilt and iniquities; the chastisement [needful to obtain] peace and well-being for us was upon Him, and with the stripes [that wounded] Him we are healed and made whole. Isaiah 53:3-5
Unyielding Truth
This is what transference eventually does, it strips of unconditional support until you have nothing left to do, but deal with your own issues, because you have no one else to blame or punish. If not for Christ, this is what the world would look like… no one caring. But Jesus taught us, not by might, not by power, but by my Spirit, you can turn the other cheek, you can be strengthened in the face of transference to be a person of strong spirit, a forgiving person, and a person of truth, who keeps unyieldingly speaking the truth, who patiently endures, letting go and letting God work out the human messes, letting God be the Fixer.
The Adult Child
Transference, it can be experienced when the adult child, who has created their own mess in their lives, suddenly see it as the parent’s fault. The parents are blamed for their current chaos. So the parents are ghosted. Don’t call them, and don’t let them in on anything going on in your life. Ghost them, blame them, because they are the problem, and stop communicating with them, stop doing life with them, because they are your problem. Don’t give them permission to be a part of your life anymore. And when they won’t go away, emotionally throw up all over them, telling them about every little petty thing that they did wrong as a parent, as you continue to ignore your messy life, and your mistakes. This is good wisdom: Parents, we don’t have to dish out what has been received from our adult children, because in Christ, by His might and strength in us, we can bloom in love, in the harsh environment of transference.
Adult Problems
Why Transference? Because the adult child who is transferring their adult problems on the parents, they have a soul issue buried deep inside, that they don’t want to deal with. These soul wounds, created by bad choices of others, or by bad choices of the adult child, they keep surfacing through anger and bitterness, creating strife and chaos in the family. When you, Adult child, use transference to your parents, about your issues, which are creating chaos in your life, this transference of the condition of your heart, to blaming your parents, changes nothing in your soul, you remain unhealed. Wisdom says: The emotional punishment to your parents, won’t stop the erupting of your soul pain. It will happen again as life triggers what you have hidden inside, and it will continue to surface until it is dealt with by you and healed. God brings all secret sins to the surface where He can heal, renew, and renovate the soul. In transference, to your parents, by blaming them, you adult child, are deceived that you don’t have to deal with the issues you have created in your adult life. But you will have to deal with them. You, adult child, will see the chaos come full circle. Blaming your parents, taking the focus off of you, this temporary peace will implode. Why? Because you have not dealt with your past, or the inner healing you need, because you deceptively think you don’t have to deal with the consequences of your sin, because you blame your parents for your choices. These are your choices, you can’t transfer this to your parents, thinking your present chaos is your parents fault. Blame the parents. Transference! Be Lame!
For there is nothing hidden that shall not be disclosed, nor anything secret that shall not be known and come out into the open. Be careful therefore how you listen. For to him who has [spiritual knowledge] will more be given; and from him who does not have [spiritual knowledge], even what he thinks and guesses and supposes that he has will be taken away. Luke 8:17-18
No Trespassing
Transference leads into: No Trespassing, ghosting people, punishing people who have done nothing wrong but supported you in your life, and loved you unconditionally. Unfortunately, putting up no trespassing signs, this goes both ways and the sad thing is, you shut out the ones who did support you through all your life. Transference! It isolates people from people, it devalues community, it weakens the family structure, and lames everything and everyone in its path. Listen Up to this 1 Minute Encouragement Video:
Beware Of The Stronghold Of Transference
So, by listening up to God and hearing His wisdom for us, I have spent a lot of time putting this post together, as a warning exhortation from God about the dangers of transference to us personally, to our family, to our community, to our nations. I hope that you grow through this godly exhortation and change some things up in your life according to the truth of God. I have. God has given you many examples of how the enemy of our soul uses transference to compassion fatigue good people, to split communities, destroy nations, and hurt families. Transference becomes a stronghold of deception that kills, steals and destroys, and we must guard our hearts from it, and from the effects of it, by walking wholly-holy with Jesus, and putting on His Armor to keep the darts of the enemy, the fiery missiles of transference from hurting and destroying us in this generation. I pray we start by putting on The Belt of Truth, getting into the Bible. I pray we all shake off the narcissistic ways of the enemy of our soul and fully embrace God and His truth. Listen up to this 1 Minute Encouragement video and be reminded of the intrinsic value of the Word of God in our lives to help us fight the good fight of faith.
A final word: Be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on all of God’s armor so that you will be able to stand firm against all strategies of the devil. For we are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places. Therefore, put on every piece of God’s armor so you will be able to resist the enemy in the time of evil. Then after the battle you will still be standing firm. Stand your ground, putting on the belt of truth and the body armor of God’s righteousness. Ephesians 6:10-14
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